If she told you not to wait for her and you are wondering why she told you that, this article will open your eyes.
When you approach a girl and try your best to seduce her to be your girlfriend she might not tell you what you want to hear.
You expressed your feelings for her but she told you right now she is busy dealing with other things.
She doesn’t want to commit to any relationship right now because she is focusing on her career, life, or herself.
Other women will tell you that they need time to figure out their lives before they start to commit to a relationship.
Some will tell you that they don’t want to be in a relationship for the moment because of something they are handling.
So, you are here thinking that there is a chance she might say yes as long as you are a gentleman enough to give her time to deal with her issues.
If she is focusing on her career, it’s possible that you can give her one year to finish up what she is working on and then approach her again.
Now that she is done working on her career she might give you a chance.
You asked her if you could wait for her to finish up what she is dealing with and after that, you can start dating.
This is the part where you show her that you are willing to give her time to focus on whatever she is dealing with then after that is when you will ask her to commit to you.
“I will wait for you to completely exhaust what you are working on and then we can start dating”
The response she gave you is “Don’t wait for me”
What does it mean when a girl tells you not to wait for her?
When a girl tells you not to wait for her it means she doesn’t want you to consider that she is going to give you a chance after she is done dealing with what she is focusing on. She doesn’t want you to waste your time on her.
She told you that she is not ready for a relationship right now because she is working on herself, focusing on her career or job and so many other things.
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But she told you not to wait for her because she is not sure if she will give you a chance after she is done working on what she is doing right now.
This is why she told you not to wait for her;
1. She doesn’t want to be with you.
If she told you not to wait for her this is the first thing you need to know.
She doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
There are so many reasons why she doesn’t want to be with you; she doesn’t love you, she doesn’t think you are the right guy for her, or she has someone else in mind.
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The truth is that she doesn’t have feelings for you. She can’t consider dating you even after she finishes working on herself or her career.
What you need to know about women is that they are straightforward people when it comes to expressing their feelings.
I agree with you that sometimes they may be complicated because of how they react to different situations, but that isn’t the same when it comes to expressing their feelings.
When a woman is in love with you and she wants to be with you the moment you ask her to be your girlfriend she won’t push you away.
She might indeed play hard to get but she will open up eventually.
It’s exactly what she wants why should she push you away? Someone else might snatch you from her.
So, when she tells you that you should not wait for her, it’s clear that you are not her choice.
If she felt anything for you, she could have given you a chance even if she had something important that she was working on.
She would have given you a chance and then talked about how you are going to handle the relationship because of what she is working on.
So, if she told you not to wait for her, it’s clear that she doesn’t want to be with you.
She didn’t want to hurt your feelings and that is why she used this phrase.
2. She is not sure if she will consider letting you in.
She told you not to wait for her because she doesn’t know whether she will let you in or not.
It can be that right now she knows how she feels about you. Maybe she likes you so much.
On the other hand, maybe she doesn’t know how she feels about you but she doesn’t want to say it.
Sometimes she wants to be around you and sometimes she just doesn’t feel like she needs you at all.
She is confused about everything.
The truth is that she told you not to wait for her because she is not sure if she will let you in or not.
At the moment she is busy working on something; her career, herself, or maybe her life.
She knows that as time goes by things might change and she might not feel anything for you.
In the process of what she is dealing with, she is not sure if you are still going to be the guy she will want to be with or not.
Maybe her perspective on relationships will change when she is done working on what she is doing.
She told you not to wait for her because she doesn’t know what the future holds for her.
And she doesn’t want to hurt you by keeping you waiting for her all that long and then you find out that she is not even considering dating you.
She is not sure if things will be the same after what she is working on and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
3. It might take a long time for her to date.
She told you not to wait for her because it might take a long time for her to decide to date.
If she told you that she needs to fix herself because of the issues she has been through in her previous relationships, it might take longer for her to recover.
She knows that it won’t be easy for her to heal that quickly and give you a chance and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
If she told you that is focusing on herself, she needs time to herself or she is working on her life, she told you not to wait because it will take longer.
She knows that it will be impossible for you to wait for that long because you have feelings.
You will meet people as you travel and you might lose your shot at them because of her.
She doesn’t want you to completely focus on her and lose out on other amazing people you will meet along the way.
The truth is that she doesn’t think she is going to be in a relationship anytime soon.
She doesn’t think that she will date after 1 or 2 years and that is why she doesn’t want you to wait for her.
4. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
She told you not to wait for her because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
What you need to know is that she told you not to wait because she just doesn’t want to be with you.
Telling you the truth about what she feels about you might wreck you into pieces.
She knows that you love her so much and you are willing to wait for her for any period.
The truth is that she doesn’t feel the same for you and even after she finishes dealing with what she is working on, she will not consider letting you in.
And that is why she wants you to just forget about her and not wait for her.
She doesn’t want to tell you that she doesn’t love you because it will break you.
And that is why she is just telling you not to wait for her.
She is rejecting you indirectly but she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
5. She wants you to find someone else.
She told you not to wait for her because she wants you to keep your options open.
You have to go out there, interact with people, and find someone who is going to match your expectations.
She doesn’t want you to focus on her when you haven’t taken yourself out there.
What she wants you to do is find someone else who is going to let you in.
She knew that if she told you to wait for her, you would not focus on anyone else.
You will push so many women away because you know there is someone you are waiting for.
She told you not to wait for her because she wants you to give opportunities to other women that you will come across as she is dealing with her issues.
Lastly…
If she told you not to wait for her, you should know that she doesn’t want to be with you.
She doesn’t love you but she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. This is a rejection, but indirectly so that it doesn’t wreck you into pieces.
If she wanted to be with you and right now she is busy dealing with something else, she could have told you to wait for her.
The fact that she told you not to wait for her shows that you are not someone she is willing to be with at all.
Find someone else who will be ready to let you in and let go of her. That is what I can advise you to do.
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