If your boyfriend doesn’t want you to leave stuff at his place, there is something off.
You need to know why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff for you to know what you should do about it.
If there is something he is hiding from you it will be revealed.
Your boyfriend shouldn’t find it a big issue at all when you leave your stuff at his place.
You are dating, there is nothing wrong with letting you leave your things behind because you will be visiting him often.
But if you are not dating, you are just friends; he doesn’t want his girlfriend to find out that there is another girl coming over.
In most cases; if you aren’t dating someone you won’t consider leaving your stuff at his place.
I know you are dating and he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff behind and this is what troubles you.
This is why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place;
1. He wants you to spend less time at his place.
If he doesn’t want you to leave your things at his place this is the first thing you should know.
He knows that when you leave your things at his place you will always prefer spending more time there.
When you leave the most important things that you use almost every day, you won’t have to leave his place to go get them from your place.
For instance, if it’s your makeup bag, you always carry it with you wherever you go because you want to look pretty.
If you shower you are going to need to use your makeup. The moment you leave it at his place, you won’t need to leave his place at all because you have everything you need around.
This means when you are at his place you will hardly leave because everything you need is there.
This will make you spend more time at his place when you visit him.
He doesn’t want you to stay at his place longer and that is why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff behind.
This is a clever way of asking you to leave his place when you are done with him.
The truth is that if he wanted you to spend more time at his place, he would ask you to leave the things you need the most when you visit him.
For instance, if he doesn’t want you to leave your charger behind, he uses Android while you use iPhone, this should tell you that he wants you to leave his place.
When your phone’s battery is low, you will have to leave and go charge it at your place.
So, I get you to understand what it means when he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place.
2. He is not serious about the relationship.
He doesn’t want you to leave your stuff behind at his place because he is not serious about you and the relationship at large.
If he doesn’t want you to spend more time at his place, this suggests that he only wants you around when you are of use to him.
And after that he wants you to leave his place.
If he told you that he wants a serious relationship with you, he lied to you!
This guy is only using you and that is why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place.
If you think about it, it’s not a big deal if you leave something behind at your boyfriend’s place.
Your boyfriend should encourage you to leave something behind so that you keep coming back.
You will always find an excuse to visit him because there is something you left at his place.
But if he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff behind, this should tell you that he is not serious about the relationship.
And if he is not serious about you, there is something else you should know why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place.
3. You are not the only girl who enters that house.
He doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place because you are not the only girl who comes over.
There are multiple girls that come over to his house and that is why he doesn’t want you to leave your things behind.
He knows that when other girls come and see your makeup bag or your clothes there, they will realize that he is cheating on them.
So, he doesn’t want you to leave with your things because it’s evidence that will only make things worse with the other girls who come over to his house.
The reality of the situation here is that he is cheating on you with someone else.
He doesn’t want the other girl to find out there is another girl other than her, which is you who comes over to his place.
So, if he always tells you not to leave your clothes, your makeup, or shoes behind, just know that he is cheating on you.
He is not serious about you, so cheating on you is not a big deal to him.
I am sure if you were cheating on him with another guy, you wouldn’t want him to leave his jackets behind when he comes over to your place.
This is the same case here with him, he is cheating on you with someone else.
4. He doesn’t want you to consider moving in with him.
This is another possible reason why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his house.
He doesn’t want you to consider moving in with him and that is why he doesn’t want you to leave your things at his house.
The moment you have lots of your stuff at his place; your clothes, your shoes, and anything that you use frequently, this means you will be spending so much time at his place.
You will rarely go to your place because everything you need to use every day is at his place.
This will make you consider moving in with him because you rarely spend time at your house.
Your days and nights are all exhausted at your boyfriend’s place.
He knows that when you see things this way, you will start asking him what he thinks about you moving in together.
This is something he is trying to avoid and that is why he doesn’t want it to come to that.
He doesn’t want you to think of moving in with him, he wants you to visit him, have a good time, and leave his place.
It can be that he is not ready to move in with you or he is not serious about you.
He is using you for the time being and he will end it when feels like it.
This is another possible reason why he doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place.
So, if he is not clear about what he wants from you, he doesn’t talk about the future with you and he seems not ready to settle down with you, this is true about everything I have just talked about.
5. He doesn’t want to let any memory of you at his place.
When you leave your things at his place, the memory of you will always be alive there.
He will always think of you when he sees your clothes hanging in the wardrobe.
It can be that when he thinks of you, he always wants to be with you and that is not something possible.
You all have a tight schedule and meeting up is rare for both of you.
So, he just wants to distract himself not to think about you because he will start to be clingy which is not a good thing.
He wants to be independent, be able to manage his time effectively, and handle his responsibilities without any distractions.
And that is why he doesn’t want you to leave your things at his place because he will be distracted when he sees them.
The more he thinks of being around you, the more he will lose focus on the work he wants to do.
And that is why he doesn’t want you to leave anything at his place that will make him think so hard about you.
Lastly…
When your boyfriend doesn’t want you to leave your stuff at his place you have the right to ask him.
Let him open up to you about why he doesn’t want you to leave your things behind.
If he won’t give you a clear explanation that makes sense; there is something fishy going on.
You should face him to confront and ask him about the status of your relationship.
What does he want and expect from your relationship? It’s good to be aware of what he expects from you so that you don’t find yourself in the wrong relationship.
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