If your boyfriend or girlfriend has no ambition it is up to you to change him or her. You need to be accountable for your partner. Whether you like it or not his or her condition might affect you and the relationship too.
If you are ambitious more than your partner, you need to find a way to change him or her.
This is to ensure that he or she doesn’t drag you behind when you are moving forward.
If he or she is someone you want to stick with, start a future with, and even end up involving him or her in your business, you need to change him or her.
You can’t just think of ending the relationship with him or her simply because he or she isn’t ambitious.
Sometimes you can’t choose who you fall in love with and we all have our weaknesses.
The best way to change your partner when he or she isn’t ambitious is by being his or her role model first.
There are several things you can do to make your partner self-driven and motivated to change his or her life without using so much effort.
This is what to do when your partner is not ambitious;
1. Find out why your partner has no ambition.
If your partner is not ambitious the first thing you should do before you do or say anything is find out why he or she is in that situation.
Don’t start telling him or her things that might end up making him or her feel bad about himself or herself.
What you are trying to do is change him or her to start taking charge of his or her life.
You need to get him or her out of his comfort zone so that he or she starts working on his or her life.
Before you think of changing someone you first have to know why they are in the situation they are in.
And how can you know why your partner is not ambitious?
The first thing you have to do to know why your partner is unambitious is to observe him or her.
Just look at how he or she handles himself or herself first.
Does he or she do anything that contributes to him or her being unambitious?
Is there anything that your partner involves himself or herself in that makes him or her unmotivated?
Look at the way he or she lives and how he or she talks about it.
If there is something that he or she does that is the reason why he or she is unambitious, it will give you an idea of where you should start working on this issue.
You will know why he or she is unambitious and it will give you an idea of how you should change him or her.
But if you can’t see a reason why he or she is the way she is, you will have to talk to him or her about it.
Since you don’t understand why your partner is not putting effort into changing his or her life and achieving what he or she wants, you must talk to him or her if you know why this is happening.
These are the kinds of questions you should ask your partner to know why he or she is unambitious;
- “Where do you want to be with me five years from now?”
- “What do you think of the current situation of your life?”
- “Do you have dreams and goals to achieve?”
- “What would you do to change the situation of your life?”
- “Do you think it’s important for you to be self-driven and push yourself to achieve whatever you need?”
When you ask your partner these questions his or her responses will give you an idea of why he or she is not ambitious.
These questions will make him or her open up to you about why he or she is in the current state.
From the response he or she will give you, you will have an idea of how to start turning him or her to be that self-driven individual you want him or her to be.
2. Express how you feel about his/her situation.
If your partner is not ambitious and you would like to give him or her a wake-up call, be honest with him or her about his or her situation.
He or she is in love with you and will be willing to do anything to make you happy.
This person is willing to do what it takes to see you smiling, so use that to your advantage.
Express how you feel about his or her situation. Let him or her know that you aren’t pleased with the condition he or she is in.
Tell your partner that you are not happy that he or she isn’t self-driven.
It can be that he or she is financially dependent on you, you are the one paying for everything and clearing his or her bills too.
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This is so hard for you to do because you are not rich. You also have your bills to pay and also take care of your family.
If you are going through a tough financial situation because of him or her you need to open up to him or her about it.
Let him or her know that you have all the responsibilities on your shoulders and no one is there to help you tackle them.
If he or she is not doing anything to help you out in your responsibilities and even take care of him or herself you need to talk to him or her about it.
Opening up to your partner about how you feel about his or her situation will be the first call that will push your partner to change.
He or she will realize that he or she has been dependent on you to work on everything in that relationship and it’s tiring you.
Your partner will be forced to think of a way he or she can start taking charge of his or her life to help you out with these all responsibilities weighing down on you so heavily.
So, let it out all if it bothers you that he or she is unambitious and it might be the first step you will make when it comes to changing him or her.
3. Let your partner know the dangers of being unambitious in these times.
After you have told your partner about how feel about his or her current situation, you also need to tell him or her the dangers of being unambitious.
If you are at the point of working to change your lives, get a roof over your heads, and prepare yourselves for the future you need to let your partner know what is at stake.
You need to tell your partner the reality of things. If he or she is to make any changes in his or her life, he or she needs something that will motivate him or her.
Your partner needs a reason to make these changes. Things in his or her head need to click that he or she has to start working on his or her life.
Someone will only change when he or she sees the need to change and not because you push him or her to make the change.
Sharing with your partner the dangers of him or her being unambitious will let him or her know why it’s not great that he or she is in this condition.
The push he or she should get to start changing his or her life should be from within.
That is why it’s best you share with him or her the dangers he or she is putting the relationship in if you want him or her to change.
If you see your relationship going sideways because he or she is unambitious don’t be afraid to tell him or her the truth.
This information will stick into his or her head and it will be the second thing that will push him or her to start changing his or her life and be the ambitious person you want him or her to be.
4. Motivate your partner to start working on his or her life.
If you want your partner to be ambitious you have to be the reason he or she makes that change.
Even after expressing what you feel about his or her situation and telling him or her the dangers he or she puts the relationship in, you will still need to encourage him or her to start working on his or her life.
It’s not easy to just get out of your comfort zone and start working on things you have never done before.
It can be that you find it easier to work on yourself, shape your life, and work on your goals because you are self-driven and you know what you want in life.
You are hard-working because you know what you will achieve in the end.
Something is pushing you beyond your limits just to wake up early in the morning every single day to work on the things you care about.
Your partner may not have the same internal push and that is why he or she is unambitious.
You need to push him or her to work on attaining this internal push to make the change you want to see in him or her.
And that is why the part of you motivating him or her comes in. You need to do and say things that will supercharge your partner to start changing his or her life.
You can motivate your partner by helping him or her to make the change you want to see in him or her, compliment him or her when he or she tries something to get out of his or her comfort zone, and show him or her why it’s a good idea to make this change.
Instead of criticizing him or her try to help him or her in situations that he or she can’t manage.
Give your partner a reason to be ambitious. As long as you are around him or her, this will push him to be ambitious just to make you happy.
As time goes by it will get into his or her mind that he or she needs to start working on his or her life for himself or herself and not just to please you.
5. Help your partner to make the change that you want to see.
If you want your partner to be ambitious you have to help him or her.
You need to be the help your partner needs to be ambitious. I told you that you have to be accountable for each other.
When you are falling at something your partner should be there for you and show you the way.
You should also do the same for him or her.
If your partner is unambitious start by helping him or her to get out of his or her comfort zone.
You can do that by asking him or her to involve himself or herself in learning any skills that will help him to earn money, grow him or her, and change him or her to yearn for more.
If your partner doesn’t know something when it comes to what you want him or her to indulge himself or herself in you should be there to show him or her the way.
Be by his or her side, help him or her when he or she is stranded, and let him or her know that you have his or her back.
With your support, your partner will be able to make the change you want to see in him or her as long as he or she is willing to try.
It will be difficult for your partner to make any changes if you won’t be there to help him or her out.
You can’t just dump thousands of motivational books at his or her desk and expect that he or she will start utilizing the information and be the ambitious man or woman you want him/her to be.
Things don’t work that way when it comes to getting someone out of their comfort zone.
Be the ladder that he or she needs to climb up, be the reason he or she makes the tiny step into the world of success, and be the morale he or she needs to keep working to change his or her life.
This is what you should do if you want your partner to be ambitious. It’s not an easy thing. But if you are determined to help him or her take charge of his or her life things will work out.
6. Remind your partner of the things you are working to achieve in life.
As you are helping your partner to be an ambitious man or woman, you need also to remind him or her why he or she is working on this change.
Remind him or her of the things you both want to achieve in life and the relationship at large.
Talk about where you are now and where you want to be in a few years to come.
Let your partner see the reality of where you are.
This will remind your partner of the things you have to work on to be where you want to be.
If you had goals of travelling the world together and experiencing new culture it won’t be possible if he or she is not ambitious.
Those goals to be achieved won’t happen if you are all broke and struggling to even clear your bills.
The fancy apartment you want to own, also needs both of you to be self-driven to be able to make this a dream come true.
The goals you planned aren’t just mere words. You need to remind your partner of the things you will have to sacrifice to be where you want to be.
This is what will show your partner that you still have a long way to go and so many things to do to be where you want to be. So, there is no time for playing around.
He or she should stand up and start fighting for his or her life.
For the goals to be achieved you both have to work together and contribute to the success of your mission.
This will push your partner to start taking charge of his or her life and help you achieve all these goals.
7. Take it easy on your partner and give him or her time to adjust to the changes.
You need to take it easy on him or her no matter how quickly you want him or her to change his or her life.
It won’t be easier for him or her to wake up one day and be the ambitious man or woman you want him or her to be.
You will talk to him or her about it, and after there he or she will be motivated to work and change his or her current situation but after a few weeks, he or she will go where he or she was.
This will annoy you and maybe you might think of giving up on him or her.
You need to be patient with him or her and take him or her at a pace that he or she can handle.
Within a few months, don’t expect your partner to be ambitious just like you.
It’s going to take a while. Don’t push him or her too hard to make the change so suddenly.
Change is not an event, it’s a process and you have to make peace with that. As long as your partner is willing to change and be the ambitious person you want him or her to be, he or she will change.
Don’t do or say things that are going to discourage him or her from working on his or her life.
Your partner is looking up to you for everything he or she wants to achieve.
Lastly…
What if your partner doesn’t want to change?
If you have tried everything to make your partner realize that he or she needs to change, you have given him or her time and even shown him or her what is required of him/her to be ambitious but doesn’t want to make the change you will have no choice but to end the relationship.
You will have to end the relationship and find someone else who will give you the future you want.
To be honest, if your partner doesn’t want to change and be ambitious, he or she is going to be a burden to you.
He or she is going to weigh you down not only in life but in the relationship too.
Your partner will make your life harder, you will be overwhelmed in the relationship when you have to do everything by yourself and this will be the reason the relationship will turn out to be a chore. It will be a burden.
Why put yourself in this kind of situation when you have your whole life in front of you and you can meet someone else?
You don’t have to get old while you are in your twenties because your partner leaves everything to you.
Let him or her go if he or she doesn’t want to make a change to be the ambitious person you want him or her to be.
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